Gee, you're a dumb ass

There are two comments people often say to me that I absolutely hate.

One is when I'm in a long line, let's say waiting to check-out of a store, and some one says: "Gee, you're lucky, you can sit down."

Dumb.

The second is when someone finds out I don't work and am on disability and they say: "Gee, you're lucky, you don't have to work."

Dummer.

But you know what's interesting? The only way I can make it through week after week living with a mobility disability, living with almost daily pain, and with unexplainable, unpredictable, and untreatable leg-muscle fatigue... is by realizing that yes, I am lucky.

I am lucky I don't have to work. I'm lucky that I have all the free time in the world to do things I enjoy rather than having to work.

I can avoid having to get up at the crack of dawn, putting on make-up and doing my hair, slogging through traffic, and dealing with corporate BS. I can spend my time (when I'm feeling well enough) writing music, playing with dogs and reptiles, learning new software, editing videos, and watching Dr. Phil.

Just don't tell any able-bodied folks this. They'll want in on the deal. Just don't tell them it's not that great of a trade-off.


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Anonymous said…
Amazing how insensitive people can be, but I really think they are just insensitive and dumb and they don't realize that they are being hurtful.
6:58 PM
Laura said…
Compliments to you for being honest about the idiocy of others, and for being above it.
11:03 PM
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